How do you deal with family who doesn't believe in your car hobby.

"Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man" (jordaneer1) 09/12/2015 at 12:43 • Filed to: None

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My mom seems to not believe that doing general maintenance is not something you should do in your driveway (well on the street) she believes that you need to take it to a place like meineke or something, I merely changed my oil in the street, and now she has forbid me from doing it ever again, the reason she gives is it is just as expensive and takes less time to have it done at meineke (which is true) than it costs for the materials and you waste more time doing it (which is also true) to me, its not just about cost, its about learning how to do your own servicing of cars. But she does not get that at all.

TheHondaBro > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:46

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Compare it to one of her hobbies.

Uug > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:47

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Find an empty parking lot that doesn’t seem to see much use, load up tools in the car and take it there. Make sure you stick to general maintenance like fluid changes though; you don’t want to tackle a hard job and risk having to leave your car somewhere

TheD0k_2many toys 2little time > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:48

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“whatever, whatever, I do what i want!”

qbeezy > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:50

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She should worry about you in the street. One bad driver and her baby’s gone or pinned under a car. I used to change my oil in the street. Then had my foot almost ran over and car hit. But people at mienke don’t take the clsane care as you would. And they definitely don’t use the same quality of material. Unless you see them put in the high brand oi .

04sneaky - Boxers. Blowers. Bikes. And bitches. > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:52

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Tell her that it’s not just about changing the oil. Part of doing work to your own vehicle is so you can see what’s going on. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve changed my oil and noticed other things going on whether it be bushings worn out, tires cupping, or my transmission rear seal taking a vacation. These are things that somewhere else ‘might’ notice, but it’s not their car so they could care less.

I fight with my girlfriend over the same subject, but as many times as we’ve been burnt by shoddy workmanship at shops she’s starting to come around. Those places are just out for profit. Which means get a car in and out as quick as possible.

Your boy, BJR > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:54

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Honestly if it's the same price to have someone do it for you.....why NOT? I hate working on cars ever since I used to be a mechanic.

For Sweden > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:56

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Find a new family

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > Uug 09/12/2015 at 12:57

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I think that I will just have to end up doing this, I’m not referring to like changing brakes, just like coolant and oil changes. If I was go try stuff like that, I would want someone who knows what they are doing to help me.

DrScientist > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 12:59

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i happen to live in a city where its not very feasible to do any work on my car. so i tend to do standard maintenance at my family’s home which is a couple of hours away. my mother is similarly concerned for me.

she is mostly concerned for my safety crawling under the car. rightfully so, as a 4000 pound jaguar with about 4 inches of ground clearance wouldn’t pin me, but literally squash me like a bug. i’ve walked her through my safety protocols to assuage her fears, and also have resealed her driveway to hide all of the oil and other fluid stains the car has left there. probably have to do it again in the spring.

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > For Sweden 09/12/2015 at 12:59

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Lol

Steve in Manhattan > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:00

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Do you have a friend with a garage? Or perhaps there’s one of those place near you where you can rent a service bay and do it yourself. Putting my 300D up on a lift and changing the differential oil was a lot of fun.

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > TheHondaBro 09/12/2015 at 13:01

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She is pretty much a workaholic, so she really doesn’t have many hobbies, she does like to travel though.

JKER > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:01

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Simple. Leave your family.

scoob > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:03

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Traveling is expensive and takes too long. Just go on Google maps and open street view!

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > scoob 09/12/2015 at 13:04

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True, I enjoy traveling too though.

HammerheadFistpunch > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:07

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Respect the rules of the home you live in

Go to friends house

Fix both cars there

Good times

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > Steve in Manhattan 09/12/2015 at 13:09

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Too poor :(

we have a garage, its just full of crap.

I have one person I know who would be willing to help with stuff like this.

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > 04sneaky - Boxers. Blowers. Bikes. And bitches. 09/12/2015 at 13:17

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I really don’t know a whole ton about mechanicals of cars.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:18

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My parents soon came around when they realised I could fix near anything for free. I save them a fortune in garage bills.

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > qbeezy 09/12/2015 at 13:18

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I live on a culdesac, so this really isn’t an issue. I need bigger ramps or jack stands though.

For Sweden > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:18

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I’m not joking

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > HammerheadFistpunch 09/12/2015 at 13:20

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She forbid me from working in our street, not others.

Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man > For Sweden 09/12/2015 at 13:21

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Don’t have a job, and am not in school (at least until next year).

For Sweden > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:26

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But you have a family that doesn’t support a hobby that involves useful life skills

qbeezy > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:33

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Think if you were in your mom’s position. She’ll never stop worrying. Even if you’re 60 lol

Steve in Manhattan > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 13:59

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I dated the assistant service manager, so I had access to a lift and Snap-On tools. Heaven.

Baeromez > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 14:06

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Just tell her that you enjoy doing it. It’s not about the money, it’s not about the time, you actually want to work on your car.

sebdel > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 14:49

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The eternal problem of arguing with your mother: she’s always right.
I change my brake pads because it saves me some money, I wanted to change my own oil, went for parts and realize It’s cheaper the other way, So I have someone do it. Just clean it obsessively like I do with a little brush and different liquids for plastic paint carpet wheels engine rubber and leather, you’ll get a lot of time with your car and you don’t even have to make a mess (I use dry wash products).

04sneaky - Boxers. Blowers. Bikes. And bitches. > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 15:34

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Doesn’t take much to be honest. A l0t of it is common sense. See something dripping oil, rubber shavings all over the place, or tires wearing uneven and you know something isn’t right. Shops won’t give you that respect. Especially the cheaper places like Jiffy Lube or Meineke.

We’ve had dealerships put on oil filters wrong. I mean I literally do not even trust most of my friends to touch my car without me double-checking their work. It’s nice to not be able to blame anyone but yourself. Trying to get a shop or dealership to accept blame is nigh impossible.

JDIGGS > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/12/2015 at 15:37

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I’d add up all the money she has waisted on car repairs and services and show her.

Does she also neglect everything in her house?

Some people just aren’t car people they don’t understand anything about mechanical engineering, thats cool. Having a shit attitude about it like your mom, well not to be offensive but she is being a boob.

People who accomplish things for themselves are more likely to succeed, hell you could probably put your future kid through college by saving money from stealerships and shitcanics.

Frenchlicker > Steve in Manhattan 09/12/2015 at 18:58

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I can never get that lucky.

Steve in Manhattan > Frenchlicker 09/12/2015 at 20:23

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Start cruising dealerships for hot assistant service managers. You never know.

Frenchlicker > Steve in Manhattan 09/12/2015 at 23:20

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Nah, I’ve got a thing for the sister of the girl that does my hair. She is going to be a dog groomer so that is of waaaay more use to me.

VincentMalamute-Kim > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/20/2015 at 19:52

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This is how you learn. (plus Youtube and a factory service manual. Even better is a friend who’s smarter than you.) But the serious point is learning by doing is a great method.

I started in your shoes - changing oil was about it. Then a few experiences just like 04sneaky and I thought “I can screw this up just like the professional mechanic did. Except I will have learned something and will not have paid for a screwing.”

Grindintosecond > Jordaneer, The Mountaineer Man 09/20/2015 at 20:57

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Is it your car? You get to maintain it. It is NOT cheaper to do it at an oil place. you get to use the oil you want and especially the filter you want (Fram’s are BS) and if you buy them inn bulk then you save more money. I used to buy MANN filters by the case for my old Volvo and used Valvoline oil, something the oil places charged a ‘bottle fee’ for cause Valvoline wouldnt sell to them in bulk like the rest.